No suspense, it’s all fine! I am relieved but have a lot to say. I went Friday and they took two more views and an ultrasound. By the time I reached the scan, I was resigned to it going badly as every time they pressed the wand or whatever, it hurt. Of course it did, ninny. Your breast had just been smashed and squashed. Talk about dense!
So more on the mammo. It seemed every other woman was there for a second look. It hit me that they used to do the two views originally. Then you used to sit around and wait for the results. I don’t know which way is worst. I was thinking again this week, it’s all about the money. Where I go you take everything on top off, put your things in a plastic bag and sit in a top that is almost impossible to close. So, would it take that much more time to take your things off in the room? It is so sad, all these tense women sitting around holding plastic bags like refuges from a lost store.
Ok, there’s more.
12 years ago, I had a similar scare. It was worse and my high school boyfriend drove me to the biopsy December 23rd. I was flashing unhappy memories.
Friday, I had a friend to lunch. My thinking was whether the results were good or bad, it would be good to be with a friend. My husband was going over his sister’s to supervise a construction project. So, we are sitting around having a nice time. I have a lovely bottle of wine on the table. We are also drinking steeped tea. A very girly lunch, pink china, crystal. Friend says who is coming over. I live on an odd block with only two other houses. It’s out of the way. We never get trick or treaters. It’s husband’s probation officer! I tell them where he is, ask if they want to come in which in retrospect may not be the best idea with wine on the table. We are not supposed to have alcohol in the house. They don’t come in but I am now flashing back big time.
So, 12 years ago and I believe this is one of the seeds that let whatever is in my body out and running amok; I received a call at work that my Dad wanted to go to the hospital. This was 9:30 a.m. I left work immediately. My father was dead before 11 a.m. I found out my mother was in 6 figure debt and had no handle whatsoever on reality. I gave the eulogy.
A week later, my now husband was arrested at my mother’s house for non payment of child support. This was bogus as his ex-wife knew there was a violation of probation outstanding. She is not a bright bulb and the police had been coming to her house looking for him and terrifying her 13 year old. He was jailed. This started a new chapter in my life. I am suburban, middle class. This was f’ing terrifying. Visiting jail and going to court were experiences I never expected to have. On my first visit, a woman said well, if her husband wasn’t available, she’d visit her Dad. This was a completely different world for me and one I have been living in since. And I fell as I am wont to do when upset. At work, my manager who worked out of the UK wanted to write me out of work for the rest of the year. She could have if I was in the UK. Our HR person who I always refer to as Topo Gigo because she bears an astonishing resemblance to the little mouse told me I could do it unpaid. I was responsible for three households! Compromise: I had to go for counseling. The counselor figured out that when I was upset, I let my feet out literally from under me. According to my neurologist, I must have had the condition since then or earlier. Two weeks later, I had the bad mammo with the lump. I kept on insisting it was the fall. They said not. Guess what? After all the tests and worry, it was the fall. All this pain and fear came rushing back on Friday. But on the positive side, I had and have some amazing friends who have stuck by me steadfastly through all of this. I did survive and have continued to survive. I hated flashing back. But once again, I made it through with the help of a friend. Life is full of possibilities.